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Nobody Can Drive You Crazy Unless You Give Them the Keys

Jared James

By Jared James

At almost every event where I speak, I try to include the topic of environment whenever possible. Some would probably question why I would do that when I am primarily talking to REALTORS®, salespeople, and entrepreneurs, but I always wonder why it is not discussed more.

A few years ago, a study was conducted to try and find common denominators among the top 100 salespeople in the world. They were expecting to get results like customer service, systems, or drive. Those are definitely important, but do you know what the No. 1 was commonality among the top 100 salespeople in the world? It was something called “the ability to manage or ability to control one’s state of mind.”

For any of you who have attended an event I have spoken at live, you know that I could talk about “state of mind” all day long, but that is not the specific point of this article. The common denominator found among the top 100 salespeople is interesting though. When was the last time that you saw a breakout session or keynote dedicated to this topic at your company or state convention? (Cue the cricket sounds in the background.)

So how do you do this? Let’s get practical about it.

Scenario No. 1 – Let’s say you went to a closing where you were representing the seller. At the closing, your seller decides that he/she is going to back out of the deal because they don’t like what the buyer is wearing that day. I would imagine that you would be pretty ticked off about this. While you are in this ticked off state, imagine that you receive a phone call from another one of your clients…

Scenario No. 2 – You are now at a closing where you represent the seller and the seller decides at the closing that you have done such an amazing job that they are doubling your commission. You leave that closing in a jubilant state and receive the exact same phone call as scenario No. 1, only this time you are overjoyed and happy.

Here is the question… Would you agree that given the two scenarios above, your two separate clients would experience two completely different sides of your personality based on the state that they found you in when they called? Of course they would! For client No. 1 you would have been ticked off, but for client No. 2, you were in a place where everything was right with the world.

The problem with this is that the ability to control or manage your own state of mind is the No. 1 common denominator for the top 100 sales people in the world. It means that every client gets the EXACT same version of YOU. Is it easy to do? Of course not! But success doesn’t always come from what is the easiest thing to do. It takes work and dedication.

Remember this – nobody can drive you crazy unless you give them the keys to do so. You are in control of your state of mind. Your success will be determined by just how true that statement is in your life.

Jared James is the CEO and founder of Jared James Enterprises (JJE) and travels around North America speaking to and coaching REALTORS®. Connect with Jared at www.jaredjamestoday.com, on facebook.com/jaredjamestoday, or follow him on Twitter @jaredjamestoday.

Comments
  1. Wendie

    Great article! It was exactly what I needed to read this morning… sometimes we lose perspective of how important our own emotions and attitudes are when trying to maintain a professional image. Thanks for sharing!

  2. Glad you enjoyed Wendie!

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