Let me tell you a little story of what actually happened to me just the other day:
I met with a new client just out of college. We met through one of my networking groups and he seemed like a very nice guy. At the end of our meeting he suggested I come and “check out what he does.” I always like to learn more about what others do and help other KCYoungProfessionals.com members.
Fast forward a couple weeks. The day before our appointment I get a LinkedIn.com request from him. Cool, I accept.
The next day at our appointment, I’m taken into a room with him and his “mentor” and I’m grilled for an hour and a half. I don’t learn what he does and how he’s different from all the others– what I discovered was they’re trying to sell me something! At the end of our meeting he opens up his folder and scoots across the table a four page list of my LinkedIn.com contacts. “My assistant pulled this list of names of people she thinks I should know from your profile. I plan on contacting all of these people and just wanted to let you know.”
Um, I don’t think so. But I was so flabbergasted that I just stared at the list until they escorted me out of the office.
Of course, the next day I call him and give him a (very nicely and politically correct) piece of my mind. I tell him I wouldn’t be doing business with him, as that was not our intent of the meeting, and I definitely will not be referring him to my clients until he gains my trust as respect back.
One week later I receive a letter from him in the mail; a form letter – with some misspellings and ‘blanks’ left empty. Looking at the signature he obviously had his female assistance sign his name (and her initials).
That was the end of our business relations, our friendship, and LinkedIn.com connection.